Andi Dorfman dishes about life after ‘The Bachelor’ in New York City in ‘Single State of Mind’

Andi Dorfman was looking for adore in all a wrong places — like on inhabitant television.

Dorfman pulled off a existence uncover coup, appearing initial on “The Bachelor” and afterwards on “The Bachelorette.” While any featured copiousness of done drama, Dorfman delivered copiousness on her own.

Having sex with dual finalists tends to do that.

Dorfman wound adult intent to one of them. It lasted 7 months and constructed her initial book, a best-selling “It’s Not Okay.” Her latest effort, “Single State of Mind,” arrives Tuesday.

She’s still looking for love, nonetheless by now she’s narrowed her hunt to a organisation of New York, a city finish with a possess complications.

Dorfman shares (or over-shares) all of it, as she finds an unit in a West Village, darkens her habit to Manhattan’s all-season black, develops a new organisation of girlfriends and plunges into a dating pool.

Much has been done — after an mention ran in a repository — about her preference to solidify her eggs. At 30, with no loyal contender for a father of destiny children in sight, it’s frequency a surprise.

Far some-more divulgence are her accounts of boozy nights on a town. It’s a nightlife stage where clubs are “filled with parched girls. You know a type, a ones with bodies done for swimsuit ads, faces done for radio, and shamelessness done for sex tapes.”

One evening, after many hours of drinking, she leaves a bar with a lovable guy. Soon they’re in a hotel room, rolling around a bed in several states of undress. When he popped a question, it wasn’t a one she expected.

“Single State of Mind,” book by Andi Dorfman

NEW YORK, NY – JULY 21: Reality TV personality, Andi Dorfman is photographed for Resident Magazine on Jul 21, 2015 in New York City. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images Portrait)

(Mike Coppola/Getty Images Portrait)

Andi Dorfman recounts a trials of dating in New York City in “Single State of Mind.”

He asked her rates.

Dorfman grabbed her garments and fled.

“It was a initial time I’d ever felt dirtier than a soiled leather chair of a yellow cab,” she says. As her cab sped away, “I gazed out a window as one word flooded my mind. Hooker! He suspicion we was a f—ing hooker!”

Far from operative in a oldest profession, Dorfman inhabits one of a newest and strangest — that of an present celebrity, creation a vital “attending events that we unequivocally have no business attending, and removing paid to post on amicable media.”

And she’s parlayed that celebrity into a books.

It wasn’t like Dorfman didn’t have a life before a single-rose ceremonies.

An partner district profession in Fulton County, Ga., Dorfman initial left Atlanta to turn one of a many opposed for a bachelor’s attention. She quit mid-season and returned to work.

Later, she quit a law and starred on her possess deteriorate of “The Bachelorette.”

Shawn Booth (from l.) Kaitlyn Bristowe, Andi Dorfman and Catherine Giudici Lowe attend a Desigual conform uncover during Spring 2016 New York Fashion Week during The Arc, Skylight in this 2015 record photo.

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The new book starts with Dorfman withdrawal her family in Atlanta for a pierce to New York City. She indispensable to find an apartment, and like everybody else who moves to New York, gifted a bold awakening of how most it costs to get so little.

Like so many star existence uncover celebrities, she has a contented bent to live out shrill and in public. Dorfman’s book is about a query for love, and she takes readers by it — one lousy date with a prohibited new male after a next.

Among her conquests are 3 veteran athletes, nonetheless here she shows a small discretion. She mentions one guy’s group — a Yankees — yet doesn’t name names. A robust contestant with a fantastic apartment? That doesn’t slight it down much.

After dating for a bit, a twin intent in a texting quarrel that signaled a bottom of a ninth for their romance.

The subject: either he would collect Dorfman adult during a bar where she was, as she preferred, or if he would send a automobile for her, as he wanted.

She also fell tough for another unclear ball actor in Seattle who unceremoniously dumped her, observant he didn’t wish to be in a relationship.

It substantially would have harm reduction if his subsequent partner didn’t immediately pierce in.

And there was a Canadian hockey player, completing her shawl pretence of unsuccessful relationships. Dorfman creates an general plunder call, yet it turns out his usually idea is sex.

Andi Dorfman arrives during a Super Bowl 50 Rolling Stone Party during The Galleria during a San Francisco Design Center in this 2016 record photo.

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Apart from that, he’s cold as ice.

So since put adult with these guys? She is honestly looking for a right male and knows that starts with a initial date.

“Long ago, in my early twenties, we didn’t mind dates so most since they meant a giveaway meal,” she confesses.

Dorfman confesses to pang by a few unpleasant Friday nights in a past for a “a nominal hum and a luscious medium-rare steak.”

But things change. Perhaps, she wonders, it’s a 26 initial dates she endured on inhabitant television. Or maybe her softened finances.

Whatever it is, she’s now as lustful of date No. 1 as she is of a base canal.

Consider this unpleasant meet-up: The male who’s severely late, dipsomaniac and coked up, afterwards flirts with a bartender, ignoring her.

Other adventures were some-more concerned — like this one.

In this May 25, 2016 photo, Andi Dorfman poses for a mural in New York in graduation of her new book, “It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak Into Happily Never After”. (Photo by Drew Gurian/Invision/AP)

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Dorfman accepts a outing to a Kentucky Derby, where she and a companion get wasted. She meets a integrate who live part-time in New York. Turns out they wish a ménage à trois, that she discovers after usurpation a float on their private jet.

She’s texting with her friend, who Googles a integrate and says a lady is a Hollywood dame who “sells girls as sex slaves to abounding millionaires.”

It’s not transparent accurately how she creates it home protection yet Dorfman concedes she now understands since her mom warned her opposite holding rides from strangers.

More self-aware than many existence contestants, Dorfman realizes some people snarl during them.

She sneers right back.

Those shows get her invited to parties, where a paparazzi snap her photo. She’s angry when people impugn her, like a Fashion Week publicists who won’t give her a giveaway sheet since “we don’t unequivocally do existence radio stars.”

“Who do we consider is shopping your s—?” Dorfman counters. “People who watch existence television.”

She afterwards went on a rip and ditched all of her Olivia James apparel, even yet she favourite them. Although Dorfman was invited to other shows, she after admits that Fashion Week isn’t all it’s burst adult to be.

Andi Dorfman poses with a authorised bachelors who vied for her love.

(Mitchell Haaseth/ABC)

Still, walking several red carpets, even Dorfman wonders what accurately she’s famous for.

“I’ve gotten so used to this it kind of freaks me out, like, who a ruin am I, and since am we still applicable adequate to be walking a red carpet?” she asks. “I shouldn’t doubt it, though, since earlier or later, everybody is going to locate on.”

She works tough during apropos a New Yorker (though someone should advise her that great on a transport is not something tough city women do).

Dorfman embraces New York wholeheartedly and is so dynamic to live her chronicle of Carrie Bradshaw’s life that she even interjection New York in her acknowledgments.

Her adore of a city is apparent from a beginning. How many people go by LaGuardia Airport “nearly skipping,” as she describes her arrival?

Dorfman continued to adore it notwithstanding a initial sniff of New York that smelled “a tad like garbage, with a spirit of urine and maybe a note or dual of sewage.”

Dorfman keeps acid for adore until she has her Dorothy-from-Kansas impulse — and realizes what she was looking for is something she had all along.

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